Hello there. I am thrilled to be sharing our fourth
newsletter with you. As we begin to see signs of
spring we are reminded of renewal and new
beginnings. With this in mind, we are focusing on our
evolving selves, exploring ways to stay involved with
grandchildren and helping young children develop a
love for reading.
I appreciate your feedback and suggestions. Do keep
in touch so we can respond to your ideas and offer
helpful information. And, it is wonderful hearing from
those of you who have just received your first copy
of this newsletter. Welcome to our widening circle of
folks who are staying connected. Please pass this
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Wishing you health, peace and balance.
Maintaining a Healthy SELF IMAGE
We each create our own self image. Whether you
your own person or let others define you is essential
with coming to terms with who and what you believe
yourself to be.
Our sense of our physical, emotional, social,
intellectual, psychological and moral selves
contributes to that larger picture. Talk positively to
yourself using the language of a kind and supportive
person. Visualize this person and hear their voice as
you begin to make it your own.
Below are Sanity Savers to help you
maintain a healthy self image:
- Don't underestimate your own potential
- Go "out of the box." Try something new and
- Look at your accomplishments
- Put your energy into focusing on your
- Find and follow positive mentors
- Listen and trust your inner voice
- DO NOT spend time with people who do not
respect your values
- DO spend time with people who care about you
and whom you care about
- DO NOT accept other people's opinions of who
you should be
- DO be open to developing or renewing a fulfilling
- Meditate regularly.
April 8, 2005 (8:30pm)
"Adult Children and Their Parents: Changing
the Dynamic and Getting Along"
Canyon Ranch: Lenox, MA
April 12, 2005 (10-12:00pm)
"Social Issues for the Child with Hearing
Beth Israel Hospital, NYC
April 19, 2005 (11-2:00pm)
I'm OK, You're My Parent's Author
NJ Chapter of the National Women's Division of the
Albert Einstein College of Medicine
Cedar Hill Country Club: Livingston, NJ
|Wedding Sanity Savers
New Book with Annie Gilbar
My new book, co-authored with Annie
Gilbar, Wedding Sanity Savers:
How to Handle the Stickiest Dilemmas, Scrapes, and
Questions that Arise on the Road to Your Perfect
will be in bookstores
on June 7th but you can pre-order it today
by clicking below.
Addressing the psychological pitfalls that go with
getting married, Wedding Sanity Savers
shares questions and answers from my advice
column on WeddingChannel.com and offers brides,
grooms and their families a helpful guide during the
|TIPS: Keeping in Touch with Grandchildren
Who Live Far Away
With 66 % of all grandparents living more than a
day's drive away from their grandchildren, finding
ways to stay in touch with long distance family is
challenging. Take the initiative to maintain a close
bond with your grandkids because more likely than
not their lives are busy enough. If possible, visit
them regularly (and offer them the invitation to visit
you) because nothing beats face-to-face
In-between visits, maintain your relationships with
the following TIPS.
- Frequent and Varied Communication:
Frequent phone calls help us stay in touch. But don't
forget about sending letters in your own handwriting,
greeting cards with enclosures (stickers, cartoons,
articles from the newspaper), postcards and
audio/video tapes (read or tell a story so they can
hear your voice and see you "in action".)
- Kids Love Technology: Become computer
savvy and let technology work for you. Use e-mail,
instant message, web-cams and exchange digital
You can even "surf the internet" together and help
with school projects!
- Find Things to Communicate About: After
opening up the conversation with "How are you
doing?" establish a bond with something that is "just
yours" to talk about. Share a hobby. Knowing what
your grandchildren are interested in makes
conversation more interesting. If your grandson
loves baseball, be sure you read the stats and call to
talk about how his favorite team is doing. If you cook
together when you visit, talk about a tasty culinary
- Connect with Stories and Family History:
Make an emotional connection by sharing favorite
stories such as "Did I ever tell you about your
grandma's and my first date?" Offer
information about your family history and traditions
such as, "Let me tell you the story about my
- Set Goals: Make a plan with your
grandchildren and their parent's to stay in touch so
everyone knows what to expect.
Sponsors Literacy Week
The first week in April is Literacy Week which
promotes the importance of reading to kids and
having them develop a relationship with books.
Sponsored by Jumpstart for Young
national non-profit that trains college students to
provide a year of one-to-one tutoring to
preschoolers from low-income backgrounds, the week
will be filled with corporate executives, public
officials, and celebrities reading to preschoolers
across the country.
And on April 21st, Jumpstart
will be hosting its annual Scribbles to
Novels cocktail and dinner fundraiser
best-selling authors Amy Bloom, Michael Cunningham,
Linda Fairstein, Al Franken and Matthew Pearl in a
celebration of the written word. Tickets are still
available through email@example.com.
Participation in each of these important events sends
a powerful message that education - particularly
early education - is of fundamental importance.
We can change the world, one child at a time.
|I'm OK, You're My Parents
Now in Paperback
I'm Ok, You're My Parents: How to Overcome
Guilt, Let Go of Anger, and Create a Relationship
That Works is now in paperback!
DALE V. ATKINS Ph.D. is a licensed psychologist,
lecturer and media commentator who appears
on the Today show.
She has more than twenty-
years of experience as a relationship expert,
focusing on families, couples, parenting, aging well
and stress management.
Dr. Atkins is the author
and/or co-editor of several books including
Sisters; From the Heart: Men and
Their Private Thoughts about their Private Lives;
Families and their Hearing-Impaired Children;
OK, You're My Parents and the soon to be
Wedding Sanity Savers.
Find out more....