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April 2007


As spring approaches we are wise to look to nature as a motivator to consider new beginnings in our own lives. New life occurs in budding flowers and the smell of fresh air.

For some of us, spring cleaning takes hold. We also clear out our minds of clutter so we have space to create, to imagine, to reflect, to have room for new ideas. An extreme opportunity for clearing the clutter occurs when you move. Moving From Your Home encourages those of you who are moving to look at your life along a continuum as you create space in your life.

Speaking of new, one of the most important things each of us can do is to try something that challenges us in a way that puts us into a “not so comfortable” zone. Take a Risk: Try Something New offers tips for moving out of our personal comfort zone.

Check my website, www.drdaleatkins.com for updates on my appearances related to my new book, Sanity Savers: Tips for Women to Live a Balanced Life. And if you would like me to speak to your group or organization, please contact me directly at dale@drdaleatkins.com or contact the Speakers’ Bureau at HarperCollins. I appreciate you sharing this newsletter with your friends, loved ones and colleagues by clicking Send to a Friend button below.

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Wishing you health, peace and balance.


In this issue
  • Sanity Savers: Tips for Women to Live a Balanced Life
    Now In Bookstores!
  • Sanity SaversTM
    Moving from Your Home
  • Happenings
  • Sanity SaversTM
    A Good Daily Habit
  • Sanity SaversTM TIPS
    Take a Risk: Try Something New
    Like Traveling on Your Own
  • A Thought

  • Sanity Savers: Tips for Women to Live a Balanced Life
    Now In Bookstores!
    SS Book Cover

    SANITY SAVERS: Tips for Women to Live A Balanced Life is out in bookstores and is filled with suggestions to save your sanity every day of the week.

    A must for any woman seeking to find her balance!

    Sanity SaversTM
    Moving from Your Home

    You are about to move. If you are like many other people, you are and have been a nester. Over the years you likely have made your home into a sanctuary for yourself and your family, and as you anticipate a move, you may have a desire to cling to what is familiar, safe and loved.

    So, how do you move from a place you've loved for so many years? A place that has been your haven... your comfort through difficult times ... a place you and your loved ones have filled with so many memories? The house is, in reality, nothing more then a building, but the memories you leave behind become the fabric of the home.

    1. Give Yourself Room to Begin Anew and Grow - Touch everything that is there. Every item has a memory.. Give yourself permission to let go of things that are no longer useful to you and can enhance someone else’s life or have outlived their own usefulness and now belong in the trash. As you handle things, allow yourself to re-live each of those memories, one at a time. This is, in itself, a very important 'journey;' . . . one that you will carry with you as you begin the next chapter of your life.
    2. Everyone Experiences Loss in His or Her Own Way - Remain aware that you are not the only one who will be feeling a loss. Your children and their families are also attached to your home. It has been a cornerstone for all of the people in your life. Their memories and connections may be difficult for them to give up. They may be hesitant to share their feelings with you, for fear of making your sadness deeper or for bringing up feelings that you chose not to share. Younger children may have difficulty comprehending the 'why' of it all (needing to leave a home because of a divorce, financial reasons, “downsizing," or a desire for a change, etc.)
    3. Make this Move with Grace - Attempt to put on a happy face and forge ahead. Hopefully you will grow from this experience. Allow and accept the moments when your heart is filled with sadness. Do some of the “moving” by yourself so you can say a proper goodbye to your home and take with you the cherished memories. Take photos of the spaces you loved, which brought you comfort and refuge. Understand which elements of these places you may be able to recreate in your next home (a place with lots of natural light, a view of a garden, an eat-in kitchen.)
    4. Allow Yourself to “End” the Relationship with the House- Having experiences is what living in that space was about. Understand and appreciate that moving on is useful. This house served you well during one period of your life and now your needs require you to have another living space.
    5. Prepare Yourself to Feel Attachment - Any house can become a home. Detaching allows you to recognize your value in creating your home wherever you are. Bring friends in to share in your memories of the place and let everyone have a chance to share some of their memories of this house. Walk into every room, closet, space and recall something about that space and say goodbye.

    Moving forces you to look at your life along a continuum. You are about to start a new chapter. Close this one in the way that is the most comfortable and complete for you.


    TODAY Show (NBC)
    Weekend Today
    April 21st: Cyber-sex and its Impact on Marriage.

    Naomi’s New Morning (Naomi Judd)
    April 29th: Tough Love Interventions.
    Hallmark Channel, 10:00am (11:00am CT)

    The Premier Women's Blogging Site: Sanity Savers

    The Lisa Birnbach Radio Show
    Every other Wed., 9:20-10:00am
    April 4th: To be announced
    April 19th: To be announced
    The Lisa Birnbach Show airs LIVE Mon-Fri 9am- Noon EST

    KEZW Radio Rick Crandall's Breakfast Club
    April 30th 10:10-10:20 am EST: live, by phone.
    STE 1050, Denver, Colorado

    National Research Fund for Tick-Borne Diseases
    April 11th 7-9:30 pm: Chicks Against Ticks
    Dr. Dale Atkins and Barbara Scala will appear at the fundraising event. Evening proceeds will support the NRFTD's mission to fund tick-borne research now. For further information call 1-800-728-7147 or visit www.nrftd.org

    National Charity League
    April 29th 4-6 pm: Guest Speaker: Tips to Master the Delicate Mother Daughter Balancing Act
    Westport Women's Club, Westport, CT

    Greenfield Hill Congregational Church
    April 30th 7:30 pm: Guest Speaker with Barbara Scala: Sanity Savers
    Fairfield, CT

    92nd Street Y
    April 24th 2-3:30 pm: Women in Midlife - Crisis or Opportunity?
    MAKOR Center, 35 W 67th St., New York, NY

    Sanity SaversTM
    A Good Daily Habit

    Do one bold thing everyday to get you closer to your goals.

    Make a call, introduce yourself or drop a note to someone who can help you along your path.

    By taking a single daily action and small steps toward whatever you want to do, in time you will attain success.

    Sanity SaversTM TIPS
    Take a Risk: Try Something New
    Like Traveling on Your Own

    One of the most important things each of us can do is to try something that challenges us to move to the edge of our personal comfort zone. Growth is about change. By becoming aware of what makes us afraid or uneasy, we can explore ways to move through fear. We become more open to experiences, thus discovering aspects of ourselves that we did not know existed. Even trying something once that we previously feared can help create feelings of confidence and accomplishment. Traveling on your own is one way you can discover places in the world and in your self.

    Give yourself the chance to reach, stretch, stimulate, grow, experience and learn things about yourself and the world around you.

    • Before You Leave, Do Your Research - Read stories, books and journals by and about men and women how have traveled on their own. Spend time in the travel section of your bookstore.
    • Enroll in a Class- Study language, art architecture, or regional cooking. Brush up on your high school French (or whatever) by downloading conversational classes to your Ipod.
    • Stay in Smaller Hotels- At B and B's or hostels you are likely to meet other folks traveling on their own.
    • Meet Other Travelers– Join a walking tour of a city, a docent guided tour of a museum, or join a group for guided day trip to a particular historic site. Take public transportation. Check out the local synagogue, church or temple service to connect with others.
    • Dine at Local Cafes- Informal and welcoming atmospheres encouarge chats with the wait staff. Appear open and friendly to other customers. Invite a guest at your hotel to join you for a bite to eat and compare notes about your travels. If you prefer to dine alone, bring a travel-related book or journal.
    • Stretch Yourself and Your Comfort Zone.

    A Thought

    The universe will reward you for taking risks on its behalf.

    Shakti Gawain

    DALE V. ATKINS Ph.D. is a licensed psychologist, lecturer and commentator in the media who appears on the Today show.

    She has more than twenty- five years of experience and focuses on living a balanced life, parenting, aging well, managing stress, life & work transitions, family connections and healthy relationships.

    Dr. Atkins is the author and/or co-editor of several books including:

  • Sisters
  • From the Heart:
    Men and Women Write Their Private Thoughts about their Private Lives
  • Families and their Hearing-Impaired Children
  • I'm OK, You're My Parents
    How to Overcome Guilt, Let Go of Anger and Create a Relationship that Works
  • Wedding Sanity Savers
    How to Handle the Stickiest Dilemmas, Scrapes and Questions that Arise on the Road to Your Perfect Day.
  • And her new book . . .

  • Sanity Savers: Tips for Women to Live a Balanced Life
  • .

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