Sanity SaversTM and More...
May 2007


Over the past several weeks there has been much needed discussion about words, and the thoughts behind those words. We all respond differently to what is acceptable and unacceptable, offensive and stupid. But what would happen if we just thought more before we spoke? If we really considered the effects of our words on others, as well as how those words reflect on us, we might think differently about what we say.

Much of what we say is mindless. Much of what we say is critical or negative. Try to stop talking and listen to your thoughts. You can discover clarity in silence. Ghandi practiced one day of silence every week. If one day is too much, try a period of time when you are consciously not talking. Instead, pay attention to your thoughts. Creating and Fostering a Healthy Socio-Emotional Environment encourages you to pay close attention to what you say and develop a sense of competency in your social relationships.

Speaking of healthy socio-emotional environments, consider how your thoughts affect you personally. Keeping a Positive Attitude offers tips for dealing with inner thoughts and feelings proactively.

Check my website, www.drdaleatkins.com for updates on my appearances related to my new book, Sanity Savers: Tips for Women to Live a Balanced Life. And if you would like me to speak to your group or organization, please contact me directly at dale@drdaleatkins.com or contact the Speakers' Bureau at HarperCollins.

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Wishing you health, peace and balance.


In this issue
  • Sanity Savers: Tips for Women to Live a Balanced Life
    Now In Bookstores!
  • Sanity SaversTM
    Creating and Fostering a Healthy Socio-Emotional Environment
  • Happenings
  • Sanity SaversTM
    A Good Daily Habit
  • Sanity SaversTM TIPS
    Keeping a Positive Attitude
    Focus on What Makes You Feel Resilient
  • A Thought

  • Sanity Savers: Tips for Women to Live a Balanced Life
    Now In Bookstores!
    SS Book Cover

    SANITY SAVERS: Tips for Women to Live A Balanced Life is out in bookstores and is filled with suggestions to save your sanity every day of the week.

    A must for any woman seeking to find her balance!

    Sanity SaversTM
    Creating and Fostering a Healthy Socio-Emotional Environment

    We all need to care about other people and feel as if we are cared about. It is part of what makes us human. We need to understand and respect everyone's personal boundaries and when we are socially competent, we pick up on the cues that let us know what and where those boundaries are. Social competency is about recognizing someone else's need as well as asserting your own need. It is also about accepting that when you are engaged with another person you accept responsibility for your actions.

    So, how do you ensure social competency? It helps when we feel confident in social interactions with other people so that we will take risks and stretch to meet and engage with people who are different from us. In this way we will likely expand our personal horizons and have compassion for others as well as for ourselves. When you are socially competent you have a healthy sense of self and you choose appropriate social, communication and problem solving skills. You avoid making another person feel diminished in any way.

    1. Learn, Master, Succeed - Learning something, mastering something and succeeding contribute to helping you feel socially competent. Not every interaction will be positive but the more successful interactions you have the more you can have them.
    2. Seek Role Models- Look to excellent role models to see how they react and interact in situations that you find particularly stressful or challenging.
    3. Be Patient- Understand that practicing patience may be at the root of a successful experience. Socially competent people accept what they cannot change and adapt accordingly, usually without malice.
    4. Anyone who wants to become more socially competent needs to maximize opportunities to teach, practice, enhance, model, and learn the very skills they hope to develop.


    TODAY Show (NBC)

    May 9th: Empty Nest

    Naomi's New Morning (Naomi Judd)
    Please check back regularly for updated listings.
    Hallmark Channel, 10:00am (11:00am CT)

    The Premier Women's Blogging Site: Sanity Savers

    The Lisa Birnbach Radio Show
    Every other Wed., 9:15-10:00am
    May 2nd
    May 16th
    May 30th
    The Lisa Birnbach Show airs LIVE Mon-Fri 9am- Noon EST

    NJ Chapter of Hadassah
    May 5th, 7pm: Keynote Speaker at Hadassah Major Gifts Dinner
    Michaelian and Kohlberg, Summit, NJ

    Michigan International Women's Show
    May 6th, 11am: Featured Speaker, Sanity Savers
    Book-signing, 11:45am - 12:45pm.
    Levy Home Entertainment/Meijer Rock Financial Showplace, 46100 Grand River Avenue, Novi, MI 48374

    R.J. Julia's Bookstore
    May 17th, 7pm: Author Talk: Sanity Savers: Tips for Women for a Balanced Life. Book-signing to follow.
    Madison, CT

    The Caring Committee
    May 20th, 9am-12pm: Moderator/Speaker, Caring for the Aging Parent.
    Temple Israel, Westport, CT

    Chief Executives Organization
    May 21st, 7pm: Keynote Speaker, CEO's Financial Seminar: Successful Couples, Dynamic Families: Is There Sanity Somewhere in All This?
    Lotus Club, New York, NY

    Jewish Book Council, Jewish Book Network
    May 31st, 5-9pm: Meet the Author Event
    Hebrew Union College-Jewish Institute of Religion, 1 West 4th Street, New York, NY

    Sanity SaversTM
    A Good Daily Habit

    Take a moment in silence every day and see what comes up for you.

    Be conscious, present and fully aware. Get to know yourself in ways you never did before.

    By experiencing silence, you can allow the space between your thoughts to just be a place for clarity and peace.

    Sanity SaversTM TIPS
    Keeping a Positive Attitude
    Focus on What Makes You Feel Resilient

    When you are presented with challenges, it is easy to become overwhelmed and despondent. Be honest with your feelings, but concentrate your efforts toward maintaining a positive attitude.

    Some tips to consider:

    • Take One Day at a Time - Don't waste energy worrying about something that may occur in the future. Focus on immediate issues and approach each day positively.
    • Find and Follow Positive Mentors- Regularly interact with people who can share their experiences, advice, and support. Support groups can be wonderful resources for contacts and information to help you widen your circle of mentors and friends.
    • Trust Yourself and Your Inner Voice- Answer only to your conscience, and do the best that you can do at the time. By listening to your inner voice, you can get to know yourself in ways you never did before.
    • Look at What You Have Accomplished- Rather than focusing too much on what needs to be done, take some time to consider what you have already done. Be kind to yourself and feel good about your accomplishments.
    • Keep and Use a Sense of Humor- Be with people who make you feel good and don't take yourself to seriously. Remember, cracking up with laughter is better than cracking under the stress.
    • Accept that change and growth are part of this process.

    A Thought

    Take a break from talking, and instead listen to your thoughts and heart.

    DALE V. ATKINS Ph.D. is a licensed psychologist, lecturer and commentator in the media who appears on the Today show.

    She has more than twenty- five years of experience and focuses on living a balanced life, parenting, aging well, managing stress, life & work transitions, family connections and healthy relationships.

    Dr. Atkins is the author and/or co-editor of several books including:

  • Sisters
  • From the Heart:
    Men and Women Write Their Private Thoughts about their Private Lives
  • Families and their Hearing-Impaired Children
  • I'm OK, You're My Parents
    How to Overcome Guilt, Let Go of Anger and Create a Relationship that Works
  • Wedding Sanity Savers
    How to Handle the Stickiest Dilemmas, Scrapes and Questions that Arise on the Road to Your Perfect Day.
  • And her new book . . .

  • Sanity Savers: Tips for Women to Live a Balanced Life
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