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January 2008


As we usher in 2008 take a moment to consider how your lives can become more balanced. Balance is the key to helping us through life's challenges. When you live a balanced life you will likely feel more content, happier, and aware and appreciative of that which you have. Generally those who live a balanced life feel they have pleasure, are actively engaged in their lives and believe their lives have meaning.

In Balance Your Relationships I offer suggestions for reviewing re-evaluating and reconstructing your relationships. In Balance Your Schedule I offer tips to help you simplify your daily routine. Begin to appreciate and accept that sanity saving is about juggling and knowing which balls you can keep in the air and which you need to put down for awhile. When you balance your schedule you are helping yourself and those around you have more manageable lives.

Once again thank you for helping to get the word out about Sanity Savers: Tips for Women to Live a Balanced Life (perfect as we begin a new year and look for a different way of dealing with life's challenges.)

Check my website, www.drdaleatkins.com for updates on my appearances related to my newest book, Sanity Savers: Tips for Women to Live a Balanced Life. For those of you with wedding related questions, please see my column on WeddingChannel.com at: www.weddingchannel.com/ui/buildArticle.action?assetUID=90252&s=84&t=71&p=106184112&c=90252&l=137006. And if you would like me to speak to your group or organization, please contact me directly at dale@drdaleatkins.com or contact the Speakers' Bureau at HarperCollins.

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Wishing you a Happy New Year along with health, peace and balance in 2008.


In this issue
  • Sanity Savers: Tips for Women to Live a Balanced Life
    In Bookstores!
  • Sanity SaversTM
    Balance Your Relationships
  • Happenings
  • Sanity SaversTM
    A Good Daily Habit
  • Sanity SaversTM TIPS
    Balance Your Schedule:
    Organize and Simplify
  • A Thought

  • Sanity Savers: Tips for Women to Live a Balanced Life
    In Bookstores!
    SS Book Cover

    SANITY SAVERS: Tips for Women to Live A Balanced Life is in bookstores and is filled with suggestions to save your sanity every day of the year.

    A must for any woman seeking to find her balance!

    Sanity SaversTM
    Balance Your Relationships

    Now that the holidays are over and we begin the New Year, it is helpful to reflect back as well as look forward. While this is the customary time for making resolutions, I suggest you resolve, each day, to be more mindful and present in your relationships as you begin this New Year.

    Consider what you do and with whom you do it. Think about who is in your life and the reasons they are there in the way they are. Review who is good for you and who is not. Decide which relationships need boundaries, which you can release, and who gets "how much" of you. Seek out people who can be there for you in ways that you need them to be so you will feel supported and heard and accept rather than resent those who, for whatever reason, cannot.

    Be aware of whether you are your authentic self when you are with the various people in your life. Whom do you look forward to being with and why? Be with people who respect your values, and limit the time and interactions with people who don't. Accept your own opinions of who you are and should be, rather than accepting other people's opinions of who you should be.

    Pay attention to your feelings, attitudes and when you are in "uncomfortable" situations. Determine what you can do about those situations to keep yourself balanced. Notice what your body is telling you. Determine how a change of attitude can help you feel more comfortable at a difficult environment. Rely on your own internal reserve to keep your balance when with people you find challenging.

    As we enter the New Year, be fully aware, conscious and present. Each person you know, or meet, will teach you something you need to know about you, the world, and what is important. In so doing, you will have experiences that will open your mind to incredible possibilities.


    TODAY Show (NBC)
    January 2nd: Messy Houses, 8AM Hour
    January 3rd: Empty Nest, 9AM Hour
    January 8th: Marriage Myths

    New Morning Show
    Hallmark Channel
    Please check website, www.drdaleatkins.com, for updated listings.

    WNPR Radio - The Real Life Survival Guide, hosted by Bruce Barber
    January 6th: 3PM: Topic: Getting Along With Your Again Parents
    Listen at www.wnpr.org; View interview at www.rlsguide.com.

    Cosmopolitan Magazine
    January 10th: Featured Speaker, Happiness in a Crazy World
    New York, NY

    Greenwich Hospital
    January 29th: 12:00-2PM: Featured Speaker, Save Your Sanity: Meet Life's Challenges
    Noble Conference Center, Greenwich, CT
    (Free) Registration required: 203 863 3863 or e-mail andreag@greenhosp.org

    Dr. Dale is featured in the January 2008 issue of Greenwich Magazine,

    Sanity SaversTM
    A Good Daily Habit

    De-Clutter Your Life

    When you are bogged down with lots of stuff and things to do, you close the door to welcoming in the new. How about allowing your spaces and yourself to truly breathe? Think about doing something each day to simplify your life, beyond just cleaning closets. Vacuum out your car, organize a part of the garage, simplify your daily routine, and start to feel lighter.

    Free yourself from that which has weighed you down, and give yourself the opportunity to be open to transition.

    Sanity SaversTM TIPS
    Balance Your Schedule:
    Organize and Simplify

    Do you find that you have too much to do and are out of balance? Do you equate "busy" with "worthwhile"? There is such a thing as finding equilibrium in your schedule, and you can find it by organizing and simplifying. Maintain your sanity by following these tips:

    • Simplify "To Do" Lists - Break lists into small, manageable segments. Then appreciate that which you have done. Keep a timeline for what follows, and note choices that reflect your priorities. Be careful not to value only those activities that end in results. Stay out of the line of fire of other people's judgments regarding what you do and don't do in a day; the way you parcel your time and your energy.
    • Plan Fewer Things - Figure out what is a productive use of your time and what isn't. Let go of the unproductive activities. Try to spend time with what you enjoy, and with people you like, engaged in life in a meaningful way. At different times of your life you may not be able to do all of what you want to do. Understand this is temporary. You can pick up what you put down for now.
    • Consciously Integrate Your "Lives" - When it is healthy for you, integrate your work and your professional lives. When you are on a business trip, take time to visit an art museum or take in a play. When you are with other parents, talk about the world, politics or a volunteer project.

    • Cure Yourself of the Hurry Sickness - Give yourself time to play and enjoy the walk or ride to work, to pick up the kids, or to meet your mother. Be aware and appreciate the process.

      Focus on each moment, and be sure to laugh as often as you can.

    A Thought

    "What we call the beginning is often the end. And to make an end is to make a beginning. The end is where we start from."

    T.S. Eliot

    DALE V. ATKINS Ph.D. is a licensed psychologist, lecturer and commentator in the media who appears on the Today show.

    She has more than twenty- five years of experience and focuses on living a balanced life, parenting, aging well, managing stress, life & work transitions, family connections and healthy relationships.

    Dr. Atkins is the author and/or co-editor of several books including:

  • Sisters
  • From the Heart:
    Men and Women Write Their Private Thoughts about their Private Lives
  • Families and their Hearing-Impaired Children
  • I'm OK, You're My Parents
    How to Overcome Guilt, Let Go of Anger and Create a Relationship that Works
  • Wedding Sanity Savers
    How to Handle the Stickiest Dilemmas, Scrapes and Questions that Arise on the Road to Your Perfect Day.
  • And her new book . . .

  • Sanity Savers: Tips for Women to Live a Balanced Life
  • .

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