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September 2008


September often means going back to school, work, and the start of new projects. Summer vacations are behind us and with challenging economic times, some of us may have made adjustments in spending, having had "staycations" instead of going somewhere. Whether you think your summer was productive or not, or if it was not as you had hoped, think of ways you can move forward and enjoy life while achieving goals and reveling in the relationships you have. In other words, do not let go of the value of staying positive and hopeful in your attitude. What were the positive things that did happen this past summer? What did you learn about yourself that you can apply to future relationship matters, health, school, and life in general?

In Facing a Lack of Acknowledgment I focus on the difficult experience of doing something for someone else or being there for someone else and not having your efforts or your presence acknowledged.

In this month's tips, Helping Someone: Tips for Offering Help and Following Through Graciously, I provide tips to guide you when you are in the position of helping someone.

Can you imagine your childhood without your favorite stories? Neither can I. That is why I ask you to donate to Jumpstart's Read for the Record, an early childhood literacy campaign that encourages adults to read the same book on the same day with a child in their life to break a world record. With just a small donation of $10, you will provide a copy of this year's campaign book, Corduroy, to a child in a low income community. Visit www.readfortherecord.org to learn more.

Once again thank you for helping to get the word out about Sanity Savers: Tips for Women to Live a Balanced Life.

Check my website, www.drdaleatkins.com for updates on my appearances related to my newest book, Sanity Savers: Tips for Women to Live a Balanced Life. For those of you with wedding related questions, please see my column on WeddingChannel.com at: www.weddingchannel.com/ui/buildArticle.action?assetUID=90252&s=84&t=71&p=106184112&c=90252&l=137006. And if you would like me to speak to your group or organization, please contact me directly at dale@drdaleatkins.com or contact the Speakers' Bureau at HarperCollins.

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Wishing you health, peace and balance.


In this issue
  • Sanity Savers: Tips for Women to Live a Balanced Life
    In Bookstores!
  • Sanity SaversTM
    Facing a Lack of Acknowledgment
  • Happenings
  • Sanity SaversTM
    A Good Daily Habit
  • Sanity SaversTM TIPS
    Helping Someone:
    Tips for Offering Help and Following Through Graciously
  • A Thought

  • Sanity Savers: Tips for Women to Live a Balanced Life
    In Bookstores!
    SS Book Cover

    SANITY SAVERS: Tips for Women to Live A Balanced Life is in bookstores and is filled with suggestions to save your sanity every day of the year.

    A must for any woman seeking to find her balance!

    Sanity SaversTM
    Facing a Lack of Acknowledgment

    Just because you suspend judgment and cease being critical, does not insure you against being judged and criticized by others.

    In my newsletters I often comment on the importance of being grateful and appreciative. We are often disturbed when we "show up" or do things for people who are unable or unwilling to show gratitude or appreciation. Why and how do we continue to be helpful or available? What motivates us? Is it because of our feelings toward God or some higher power? Is it because we realize at some point people we need to do what we think is the right thing even if the recipient can't say or show appreciation?

    Only you can determine how far you are willing to go and willing to give. Life circumstances consistently change and you may be called upon to help at a time when the people you are helping are just unable to receive your help with grace. Understand that you may not "get anything back" except the satisfaction that you know you are doing the right thing. Do not expect that others will appreciate what you are doing and that it may be difficult for you. Your experience is yours alone. Not everyone has empathy. This is especially true where there are generational differences. Younger people often do not understand that older people have a different reserve of energy and may fatigue more quickly. You are the only one who can put limits on what is reasonable for you at this time.

    Do what you think is right in your own heart, and do not expect to have a parade in your honor.


    TODAY Show (NBC)
    Please check website, www.drdaleatkins.com, for updated listings.

    The Salon
    Sept. 4: 7:30PM-9:00PM: Aging and Keeping Your Sanity and Balance
    The Saugatuck, 35 Bridge St., Wesport, CT

    Executive Women's Forum 2008
    Sept. 18: 12:30PM: Featured Speaker
    Sheraton Wild Horse Pass Resort, Chandler, AZ

    Jack Birnberg Speaks Out
    Sept. 18: 9:30AM: Coping With Loss and Death
    Radio Station WVNJ, accessible via www.wvnj.com

    Jumpstart for Young Children's September Leadership Institute
    Sept. 28: 9:30AM - 12:30PM: Stress Management Strategies for Site Managers, Team Leaders and Site Coordinators
    New Brunswick, NJ

    Sanity SaversTM
    A Good Daily Habit

    Find Inspiration From Extraordinary Everyday People

    Read about a person who has overcome physical, emotional, and societal challenges. Witness an unstoppable, forward-thinking person in action. In doing so, you can find inspiration for your own life, and think about how you can integrate their life's lessons into your daily routine.

    All of us are surrounded by people whom we can turn to for advice, inspiration, motivation, and support to help us overcome our daily challenges.

    Sanity SaversTM TIPS
    Helping Someone:
    Tips for Offering Help and Following Through Graciously

    September is a month when many people begin new projects and find themselves organizing and re-organizing to get their lives back into a routine which may have changed during the summer. In order to do this, we all can use some help.

    Here are some tips to follow when you are in the position of helping someone in some way, whether it is changing a light bulb, sitting with someone during a chemotherapy treatment, driving someone's kids to school, accompanying a friend to an AA meeting, picking up groceries, walking someone's dog, taking out the trash, or offering a lift to church to someone who is no longer comfortable behind the wheel. Whatever it is, do it with grace and a smile.

    • Be Gracious - Thank the person for giving you the chance to be useful and helpful.

    • Do Not Complain - Even if you do not want to do the task, you accepted the "assignment," so do it without complaining or negativitiy.

      Whatever it is, do it with grace and a smile. Do not offer or accept a request for help if you are going to appear "put out, put off or unhappy" about it. Remember, helping someone is one of the most important things you can do in your life.

    A Thought

    "The Best Exercise for the Human Heart is Kneeling Down and Helping Someone Up"

    Tim Russert

    DALE V. ATKINS Ph.D. is a licensed psychologist, lecturer and commentator in the media who appears on the Today show.

    She has more than twenty- five years of experience and focuses on living a balanced life, parenting, aging well, managing stress, life & work transitions, family connections and healthy relationships.

    Dr. Atkins is the author and/or co-editor of several books including:

  • Sisters
  • From the Heart:
    Men and Women Write Their Private Thoughts about their Private Lives
  • Families and their Hearing-Impaired Children
  • I'm OK, You're My Parents
    How to Overcome Guilt, Let Go of Anger and Create a Relationship that Works
  • Wedding Sanity Savers
    How to Handle the Stickiest Dilemmas, Scrapes and Questions that Arise on the Road to Your Perfect Day.
  • And her new book . . .

  • Sanity Savers: Tips for Women to Live a Balanced Life
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