Sanity SaversTM and More...
June 2009


In Less Than Perfect Situations I discuss dealing with less than ideal circumstances in your life.

In Tips to Help Children in Hospitals I offer suggestions to help your child before, during, and after a hospital experience.

As you may know, Jumpstart is a national early education nonprofit organization that pairs caring adults with underserved preschoolers in year long one-to-one mentoring relationships. Visit www.jstart.org to learn more about Jumpstart and events. If you would like to make a contribution, you may do so at www.jstart.org/don ate.

Once again thank you for helping to get the word out about Sanity Savers: Tips for Women to Live a Balanced Life.

Check my website, www.drdaleatkins. com for updates on my appearances related to my newest book, Sanity Savers: Tips for Women to Live a Balanced Life. For those of you with wedding related questions, please see my column on WeddingChannel.com at: www.weddingchannel.com/ui/buildArtic l e.action? assetUID=90252&s=84&t=71&p=106184112&c=9025 2&l=137006. And if you would like me to speak to your group or organization, please contact me directly at dale@drdaleatkins.com or contact the Speakers' Bureau at HarperCollins.

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Wishing you health, peace and balance.


In this issue
  • Sanity Savers: Tips for Women to Live a Balanced Life
    In Bookstores!
  • Sanity SaversTM
    For The Less Than Perfect Situation
  • Happenings
  • Sanity SaversTM
    Review Your Goals
  • Sanity SaversTM TIPS
    Tips To Help Children In Hospitals
  • A Thought

  • Sanity Savers: Tips for Women to Live a Balanced Life
    In Bookstores!
    SS Book Cover

    SANITY SAVERS: Tips for Women to Live A Balanced Life is in bookstores and is filled with suggestions to save your sanity every day of the year.

    A must for any woman seeking to find her balance!

    Sanity SaversTM
    For The Less Than Perfect Situation

    Dealing with less than ideal situations is a fact of life. You may not have received a job promotion or perhaps someone just didn't come through for you. In the current economy, it may very well be taking whatever job comes your way, or not retiring when you planned. It may be altering your child's options for college, or having your adult children move back in with you. Each one of us faces challenges at various times. How you deal with these challenges (which often present as disappointments) contributes to whether you see yourself as a resilient person with a sense of control or a victim.

    One way to view the situation is to think about making the most of the experience. Even though this is not the scenario you would have written for yourself, consider the ways you can benefit from this change. How can you apply your cognitive skills to other areas? How can you make the most of the transition when dealing with the unknown and feelings of insecurity? Without sounding like "Pollyanna" how can you look for the silver lining and find gratitude in the day to day experience?

    Focusing on only the negative aspects of what is not going right will contribute to your feelings of worthlessness and add to your disappointment. Instead, focus on the benefits of the changes. For example, if you need to accept a part time job because a full time job is just not available, pay attention to the extra time you now have to engage in a hobby, volunteer at a local shelter, or spend more time with those you love.

    During what you may see as a personal downturn, work at being kind to people. Go out of your way to help others. See what you can do to be of service (bring food to a neighbor in need or offer to visit someone who is alone.) By focusing on other people's situations, you are less likely to feel as if there is a dark cloud over your head.


    TODAY Show (NBC)
    Please check www.drdaleatkins.com for current appearances.

    Visiting Nurse Service of New York and Partners in Care
    June 17th: 5:30-7:30PM: Keynote Speaker. Topic: Sanity Savers: Tips for Living a Balanced Life."

    See Dr. Atkins' article, Sanity Savers for a Balanced Life, in Black Tie Magazine, Volume 7, Issue 1, pg. 64. www.blacktiemagazine.com

    Hear Dr. Atkins on the radio show, The M Word, hosted by Lori Sackler, WOR News Talk Radio 710, Sunday evenings 9:30PM EST.

    Sanity SaversTM
    Review Your Goals

    Developing Awareness Daily

    Review your goals each day as a way to get closer to achieving your short, medium, and long term goals. Begin each day with a moment of gratitude and then review your goals. When you make an effort to focus on them early in the day, you will have better awareness of your objectives as you go through your day. Then you will make better choices and likely have better results.

    Sanity SaversTM TIPS
    Tips To Help Children In Hospitals

    When children need to be hospitalized it is important that we prepare them as best we can. What can be a difficult experience for them and their family can be altered by the feelings you as a parent, grandparent, or friend show the child. Always offer information about the experience that is age-appropriate in a positive and honest way.

    Here are some tips to help you focus during such difficult times:

    • Prepare Your Child for the Visit - Gather information from your doctor and the hospital. Explain to your child what to expect. Present information honestly, and answer any questions your child may have. Consider touring the hospital ahead of time.

    • Provide Support During Hospitalization - Bring some special belongings (make sure your child's name is on them). Stay with your child as much as you can, and arrange for another person close to your child to stay when you cannot. Call your child often when you are not there. Bring in photos of friends and family. Prepare a tape cassette of you reading your child's favorite stories.

    • Keep Communicating During the Hospital Experience - Request that the nurses and doctors give you information about procedures before they occur. Give honest explanations to your child about treatments after you obtain the information. Listen to your child's feelings (fears, anger, frustration) and acknowledge them. Give compliments, hugs and encouragement frequently. Tell your child that you admire him/her.

    • Maintain Normal Routines as Much as Possible - Bring in school assignments and work with your child's teacher to help your child stay caught up with school work. Provide opportunities for independence, choices and decision making (i.e.,choosing what to wear, what movie to watch or toy to play with). Try to avoid giving your child unusual privileges and excessive gifts.

    • Recognize That Your Child May Display Temporary Behavior Changes - Be patient. Give your child time to readjust. Stay with your child as much as possible. Help your child talk about the experience, either in conversation or by drawing pictures. Make a scrapbook with your child about the hospital.

      Thanks to Rockford Health Systems for some of these tips.

    A Thought

    "Too many people miss the silver lining because they're expecting gold."

    Maurice Setter

    DALE V. ATKINS Ph.D. is a licensed psychologist, lecturer and commentator in the media who appears on the Today show.

    She has more than twenty- five years of experience and focuses on living a balanced life, parenting, aging well, managing stress, life & work transitions, family connections and healthy relationships.

    Dr. Atkins is the author and/or co-editor of several books including:

  • Sisters
  • From the Heart:
    Men and Women Write Their Private Thoughts about their Private Lives
  • Families and their Hearing-Impaired Children
  • I'm OK, You're My Parents
    How to Overcome Guilt, Let Go of Anger and Create a Relationship that Works
  • Wedding Sanity Savers
    How to Handle the Stickiest Dilemmas, Scrapes and Questions that Arise on the Road to Your Perfect Day.
  • And her newest book . . .

  • Sanity Savers: Tips for Women to Live a Balanced Life
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