Sanity SaversTM and More...
July 2009


In Teen Dating Violence I discuss how to help teens learn about healthy relationships and how to leave those that are not.

In Tips to Support Our Troops I offer suggestions to lend support to the men and women who are in the service whether or not you are in favor of military engagement.

WE CAN ALL ADDRESS THE LITERACY CRISIS IN THIS COUNTRY. Jumpstart is a national early education nonprofit organization that pairs caring adults with underserved preschoolers in year long one-to-one mentoring relationships. Visit www.jstart.org to learn more about Jumpstart and events. If you would like to make a contribution, you may do so at www.jstart.org/don ate.

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In this issue
  • Sanity Savers: Tips for Women to Live a Balanced Life
    In Bookstores!
  • Sanity SaversTM
    Teen Dating Violence
  • Happenings
  • Sanity SaversTM
    Laugh Out Loud
  • Sanity SaversTM TIPS
    Tips For Supporting Our Troops
  • A Thought

  • Sanity Savers: Tips for Women to Live a Balanced Life
    In Bookstores!
    SS Book Cover

    SANITY SAVERS: Tips for Women to Live A Balanced Life is in bookstores and is filled with suggestions to save your sanity every day of the year.

    A must for any woman seeking to find her balance!

    Sanity SaversTM
    Teen Dating Violence

    Teenagers will experiment with different types of relationships. As parents of a teen, or as a teen yourself, it is important to know both myths and facts about dating violence. With guidance and support, teens can learn to choose healthy relationships, and leave unhealthy ones.

    In dating violence, one partner tries to maintain power and control over the other through abuse. Dating violence crosses all racial, economic and social lines. Boys, as well as girls, can be victims, although most victims are young women, who are at greater risk for serious injury.

    Dating violence is common and comes in many forms. Besides sexual violence, it includes verbal and physical abuse. Threats, put-downs, and being pushed around are common examples. Statistics show that one in three teenagers has experienced violence in a dating relationship.

    Teen dating violence often is hidden because many teenagers don't tell their parents or friends about it. Typically, teens are inexperienced with dating relationships and may be pressured by peers to act violently or react submissively. In addition, they may confuse jealousy with love, and that violence is a demonstration of affection. They also hope that things will get better and that their behavior will help to their partner.

    It is important that teenagers understand that they can choose better relationships. One positive step is to learn to identify the early warning signs of an abusive relationship, and believe that they deserve to be treated with respect. Signs of an abusive relationship include: refusing to take NO for an answer; acting jealous and possessive, controlling the partner's friends and activities; using threats or put-downs when alone or with friends; blaming the victim for what is wrong, or apologizing and giving excuses for violent behavior.

    Teenagers struggle with independence from their parents. Parents have the responsibility to talk about healthy dating relationships and possible problems. If the teen is not comfortable talking to the parent, find another trusted person for your child to talk to. Focus on your child's safety and self-esteem. Develop a safety plan and be ready to help.

    As a teen, you need to remember that no one deserves to be abused or threatened. You cannot change this person, and in time the violence will get worse. You need to take care of yourself. For parents and teens, ask for teen dating violence prevention and intervention programs at schools or through other community groups. We owe it to our teens speak out, become involved and help them become their own advocates.


    TODAY Show (NBC)
    July 11th: Tag Team Parenting

    Achieving Optimal Wellness: A Retreat at Canyon Ranch
    July 18th: 6:30-9PM, Featured Speaker. Topic: Sanity Savers for Aging Well.
    Canyon Ranch, Berkshires. Lenox, MA

    Jewish National Fund
    July 28th: 7-9PM, Featured Speaker. Topic: Balance Shmalance.
    200 South Ithan, Villanova, PA. Please Call 214-832-0697 for reservations.

    See Dr. Atkins' article, Sanity Savers for a Balanced Life, in Black Tie Magazine, Volume 7, Issue 1, pg. 64. www.blacktiemagazine.com

    Hear Dr. Atkins on the radio show, The M Word, hosted by Lori Sackler, WOR News Talk Radio 710, Sunday evenings 9:30PM EST.

    Sanity SaversTM
    Laugh Out Loud

    We Can All Use A Good Laugh

    There are physical and psychological benefits to laughing out loud. You take big breaths when you laugh out loud. Laughing helps rid the body of toxins. Laughing helps clear your mind. So find something to laugh about every day. Take a break from work and play with your child or your dog. Look at funny pictures; tell a joke; share with friends and family.

    Find something funny in the world and have a good laugh.

    Sanity SaversTM TIPS
    Tips For Supporting Our Troops

    Regardless of our political views, our military service members and their families deserve our respect, support and encouragement. Stickers and magnets that say "Support Our Troops" are pleasant sentiments, but we see them so often that it is easy to tune them out. In taking a closer look at these three words that have become so familiar, consider what it mean to truly support our troops.

    Here are some tips to help you find meaningful ways to contribute support:

    • Send Care Packages - Books and snacks and toiletries help mitigate some of the harshness of the desert war zone.

    • Donate to Organizations - Support organizations that provide help for veterans who are struggling to put their lives together after the war, such as the National Coalition for Homeless Veterans.

    • Volunteer - Identify organizations whose mission is meaningful to you and find ways to pitch in. Letter writing, emailing troops through email-matching programs, or supporting families not on military bases are all ways to reach out.

    • Provide Cell Phones for Soldiers - Donate your cell phone. Not only will you help recycle cell phones, but you will also give them to people who more than deserve them.

      Finally, when you travel and see a member of the armed forces at an airport, train or bus station, smile and thank them for their service.

    A Thought

    "We know that too much, in the end, is too little and that enough is always enough."

    Gunilla Norris

    DALE V. ATKINS Ph.D. is a licensed psychologist, lecturer and commentator in the media who appears on the Today show.

    She has more than twenty- five years of experience and focuses on living a balanced life, parenting, aging well, managing stress, life & work transitions, family connections and healthy relationships.

    Dr. Atkins is the author and/or co-editor of several books including:

  • Sisters
  • From the Heart:
    Men and Women Write Their Private Thoughts about their Private Lives
  • Families and their Hearing-Impaired Children
  • I'm OK, You're My Parents
    How to Overcome Guilt, Let Go of Anger and Create a Relationship that Works
  • Wedding Sanity Savers
    How to Handle the Stickiest Dilemmas, Scrapes and Questions that Arise on the Road to Your Perfect Day.
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