In Ethical Wills,
I ask you to consider writing your personal
legacy for family and other loved ones.
In Investing in Experiences, I
suggest tips to find happiness by expanding
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A must for any woman
seeking to find her balance!
Have you considered writing an ethical will?
Ethical wills have gained popularity in
recent years and may be more commonplace
today than most of us realize.
Unlike traditional wills that transfer
worldly possessions, an ethical will
expresses your values, ideas and personal
reflections to family members and other loved
ones. They are an ancient Jewish
tradition whose roots stem from early
Biblical times. Although initially shared
through oral tradition, they are now recorded
on paper. Ethical wills can be a reflection of
your life and include descriptions of
significant events. Recipients tend to read
and reread them, as ethical wills can carry
enormous weight and meaning both for the
person who writes them as well as those for
whom they are intended.
Today, ethical wills are being written by
people of any age at any stage of their life.
Typically, people write them when they are
facing a transition in their lives or are
facing a particular challenge. Write them
when you have time to think and process what
you want to say.
Ethical wills help to clarify your
life into perspective, so it is important to
focus on your message. Many people choose to
write their ethical wills over time; not in
one sitting. In this way, you can jog your
memory as well as include
historical facts and observations that help
to clarify why you think and feel the way
Often shared with family and
community while the person is still alive,
this is not always the case. It is a highly
personal and thoughtful process. Write it
however you decide to share yourself with
your family and the world, and present it as
you wish. Ethical wills may be on of the
most cherished and meaningful gifts you can
leave to your family, friends and those in
your community. It is your personal
There are several books and websites
dedicated to writing ethical wills. One
step-by-step guide is "The Wealth of Your
LIfe" by Susan Turnbull. See http://www.personallegacyadvisors.com/store/the-wealth-of-your-life/?gclid=CJ_2m9a6mKACFdRM5QodN3Mxgg
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Read Dr. Atkins' chapter, "Family
Involvement and Counseling in Serving
Children Who Possess Impaired Hearing,"
in the new text, Introduction
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See Making the Case for Family
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See Dr. Atkins' and Rabbi E. Mencher's
Are You a Buttinsky?, in Reform
Fall 2009/5769, pg. 8. www
There is also a complimentary discussion
guide offering thoughtful questions for
A Good Daily Habit
Smiling is a great way to make yourself stand
out while helping your body to function
better. Smile to improve your health, your
stress level, and your attractiveness.
Smiles attract and draw people to you.
Frowns, scowls and
grimaces can push people away even though we
may need companionship.
Next time you are feeling down, if you can,
try to smile "to give yourself a break."
There is a good chance your mood will
|Sanity SaversTM TIPS
Investing in Experiences
Tips For Finding Happiness
It is possible to alter your own life, based
on what we know about happiness. Connecting
with friends, expressing gratitude, and being
randomly kind are several ways we can
engender happiness. One other way is to
invest in experiences.
Experiences bring more joy than material
goods because they are more open to positive
reinterpretations and are a more meaningful part
of your identity. Experiences also
contribute more to successful social
relationships, because you tend to do things
with other people.
Here are some tips for
for expanding your horizons:
Challenge Yourself - Our culture
highly values accomplishing goals and
challenging oneself. Reach outside of your
comfort zone and set the bar high enough to
reach and succeed.
Develop a Hobby - A good hobby makes
you lose all sense of time and self,
liberating you from the everyday.
Join a Club or a Group - Meet
others so you can share experiences.
Share Stories - Talk about experiences
you had, even if they were difficult
challenges. Sharing the story can help you
focus on the fact that you got through it.
Make a Mental Trip - Look at
photographs of places you love and revisit
them in your mind. You can "feel" how you
felt when you were physically there.
The bottom line: experiences can make us
happier both in the moment and in the long
run because we get benefits like social
bonding and vitality that aren't often met by
a material object.
"It is not the strongest of the species which
will survive, nor the most intelligent, but
the ones most responsive to change."
DALE V. ATKINS Ph.D. is a licensed psychologist,
lecturer and commentator in the media who
on the Today show.
She has more than twenty-
years of experience and focuses on living a
life, parenting, aging well, managing stress,
work transitions, family connections and healthy
Dr. Atkins is the author
and/or co-editor of several books including:
Their Private Thoughts about their Private
Families and their Hearing-Impaired
OK, You're My Parents
Let Go of Anger and Create a Relationship that
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