Sanity SaversTM and More...
April 2010


In Time of Your Life, I discuss the idea of reassessing our lives and finding the positive in our daily experiences.

In Manage the Last Minute Time Crunch, I offer tips to minimize the stress of having too much to do at countdown.

WE CAN ALL ADDRESS THE LITERACY CRISIS IN THIS COUNTRY. Jumpstart is a national early education nonprofit organization that pairs caring adults with underserved preschoolers in year long one-to-one mentoring relationships. Visit www.jstart.org to learn more about Jumpstart, events, and initiatives such as "Playdate With A Purpose." Scribbles to Novels, an outstanding event featuring famous authors, will take place on April 29th (see Happenings). If you would like to make a contribution, you may do so at www.jstart.org/donate.

Once again thank you for continuing to read and talk about Sanity Savers: Tips for Women to Live a Balanced Life.

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Wishing you health, peace and balance.


In this issue
  • Sanity Savers: Tips for Women to Live a Balanced Life
    In Bookstores!
  • Sanity SaversTM
    Time Of Your Life
  • Happenings
  • Sanity SaversTM
    A Good Daily Habit
  • Sanity SaversTM TIPS
    The Last Minute Crunch
    Tips For Managing
  • A Thought

  • Sanity Savers: Tips for Women to Live a Balanced Life
    In Bookstores!
    SS Book Cover

    SANITY SAVERS: Tips for Women to Live A Balanced Life is in bookstores and is filled with suggestions to save your sanity every day of the year.

    A must for any woman seeking to find her balance!

    Sanity SaversTM
    Time Of Your Life

    For every person wishing to change his or her life, every single minute of every day brings a multitude of opportunities, blessings, and affirmations. Change (dramatic, life-altering change) does not have to come from an epiphany, a moment of Biblical proportions, complete with special effects, breakthroughs, or drastic alterations in reality!

    Think of the way many people transform themselves and their lives while not only focusing on their goal (the solved problem, the revitalized person, the Eureka! moment of discovery) but also on the seemingly small steps that led to it.

    Discover a way of viewing life and its endless opportunities for renewal. What place do schedules, timetables, and "being in control" have in your life? Just consider how many people juggle appointment books, BlackBerries, i-Phones and festoon their walls with agendas and goal-projecting calendars. Many of us are ruled by the relentless rush of time. That's understandable (and sometimes commendable), but we sacrifice an awareness of what time can offer us.

    We think we can control time, cram more minutes into each hour, set the agenda, tone, or theme of the day without appreciating the value that comes from having space in our day and in our life. These spaces allow us to see the value in each moment. We can then have a spontaneous interaction or experience which requires that we be fully present.

    Most goals have to do with Doing, not Being, and those are about what gets done on the to-do list. Focusing on Being requires a change in perception. We can control our attitude, our perception, and how we use our time. There are days we may consider "unproductive" because we don't accomplish every item on our "to-do" list. But on those days, we need to commend ourselves for that which we do accomplish, much of which is not even on the list. Our days can be full of things realized, things learned, things accomplished that there isn't a calendar on Earth to register them all.


    TODAY Show (NBC)

    Please check my website, www.drdaleatkins.com, for the most current updates.

    WKTU-FM Radio Interview on KTU Cares
    April 6th: 9-9:30AM: Jumpstart's Playdate with a Purpose and the Issue of Early Childhood Literacy.
    KTU airs on Sunday mornings and focuses specifically on issues impacting the NY community.

    Friends of the Westport Center for Senior Activities
    April 18th: 2:30PM: Topic: Keeping Your Life Interesting.
    Westport, CT.

    Honoree: Jewish Women's Foundation of New York
    April 20th: 12PM: Annual Benefit Luncheon.
    Plaza Hotel, New York, NY.
    For luncheon or contribution information, please call 212-838-2660, ext. 13.

    Greenwich Fellowship of Clergy
    April 22nd: 12PM: Financial Responsibility and Children.
    Greenwich, CT.

    Connecticut Department of Health
    April 26th: 7:30 - 9AM: Grand Rounds, Sharing Difficult News with Patients and Families.
    St. Francis Hospital and Medical Center, Chawla Auditorium, Hartford, CT.

    "Time to Shine," Gymboree Play and Music Annual Meeting
    April 29th: 9AM: Keynote Speaker: Playdate with a Purpose/Raising Charitable Children.
    Hyatt Hotel, Chicago, IL.

    Event Committee: Jumpstart's Scribbles to Novels Benefit
    April 29th: 6PM
    Espace, New York, NY.

    Read Dr. Atkins' article for Glamour Magazine online, April/May: Easy Ways to Take 'Me' Time.

    Read Dr. Atkins' chapter, "Family Involvement and Counseling in Serving Children Who Possess Impaired Hearing," in the new text, Introduction to Aural Rehabilitation.
    Edited by Raymond H. Hull, and published by Plural Publishing.

    See Making the Case for Family Dinners, at iVillage.com: http://www.ivillage.com/making-case- family-dinner/3-a-62563

    Sanity SaversTM
    A Good Daily Habit

    Handle Your Mail Just Once a Day

    It is easy to become inundated with mail daily. Bills, magazines, and junk mail clutter our desks. If we ignore it, the pile gets larger.

    Why not consider setting aside 15 minutes a day to handle your mail? It can be liberating not to have stacks of mail eating up table space. Go through the mail once and make a decision on reading it, filing it, or discarding it. If it takes more than the allotted time for the day, set it aside for the next day and move on to other activities.

    Sanity SaversTM TIPS
    The Last Minute Crunch
    Tips For Managing

    When you rush, you often misstep or forget something important. When you move with consciousness and purpose, you are less apt to make mistakes, and more apt to enjoy, be present, and stay on your course.

    Do not get overwhelmed with the details and lose sight of the larger picture. How to go about doing this? Here are some tips:

    Get Organized - Don't overlook the power of the short list. Jot down what needs to be done to avoid wasting time.

    Spread Responsibilities - Have people pitch in, but don't wait for volunteers. Give jobs and ask for specifics. No one person should be doing everything, and everyone needs help.

    Find a Way to Enjoy the Chaos - Keep perspective and laugh! A sense of humor can lighten the mood and ease tension.

    Maintain a Healthy Routine - Take some moments each day to work out, stretch, read an inspiring story, and meet a friend for a cup of tea away from the chaos.

    Finally, appreciate what DID get done.

    A Thought

    "I rush badly but I wait well."

    Herbert Orenstein

    DALE V. ATKINS Ph.D. is a licensed psychologist, lecturer and commentator in the media who appears on the Today show.

    She has more than twenty- five years of experience and focuses on living a balanced life, parenting, aging well, managing stress, life & work transitions, family connections and healthy relationships.

    Dr. Atkins is the author and/or co-editor of several books including:

  • Sisters
  • From the Heart:
    Men and Women Write Their Private Thoughts about their Private Lives
  • Families and their Hearing-Impaired Children
  • I'm OK, You're My Parents
    How to Overcome Guilt, Let Go of Anger and Create a Relationship that Works
  • Wedding Sanity Savers
    How to Handle the Stickiest Dilemmas, Scrapes and Questions that Arise on the Road to Your Perfect Day.
  • And her newest book . . .

  • Sanity Savers: Tips for Women to Live a Balanced Life
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