Sanity SaversTM and More...
October 2010


In Bystanders, I discuss ideas and suggestions related to the role of bystanders in the world in which we live.

In Rituals, I focus on the value of incorporating ritual into your everyday life and how doing so can dramatically change the way you see yourself, friends and family, and the world.

WE CAN ALL ADDRESS THE LITERACY CRISIS IN THIS COUNTRY. Jumpstart is a national early education nonprofit organization that pairs caring adults with underserved preschoolers in year long one-to-one mentoring relationships. Visit www.jstart.org to learn more about Jumpstart, initiatives - such as Playdate With A Purpose, Read for the Record, and events like Scribbles to Novels. If you would like to make a contribution, you may do so at www.jstart.org/donate.

Why not join us in our online book drive campaign? Click on www.readfortherecord.org/goto/dalebookdrive for further details.

There is something that every single one of us can do to help those less fortunate. Over one million children live below the poverty level in the U.S. This shameful situation must change. Each of us has a responsibility to repair our world.

Once again thank you for continuing to read and talk about Sanity Savers: Tips for Women to Live a Balanced Life.

Check my website, www.drdaleatkins.com for updates on my appearances. For wedding-related questions, please click on the link for the Wedding Channel on the side bar of this newsletter. And if you would like me to speak to your group or organization, please contact me directly at dale@drdaleatkins.com or contact the Speakers' Bureau at HarperCollins.

Finally, please check Marlo Thomas's new website, www.marlothomas.com, where I discuss psychology and relationship issues.

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Wishing you health, peace and balance.


In this issue
  • Sanity Savers: Tips for Women to Live a Balanced Life
    In Bookstores!
  • Sanity SaversTM
  • Happenings
  • Sanity SaversTM
    A Good Daily Habit
  • Sanity SaversTM TIPS

    Rituals to Reopen Your Life
  • A Thought

  • Sanity Savers: Tips for Women to Live a Balanced Life
    In Bookstores!
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    SANITY SAVERS: Tips for Women to Live A Balanced Life is in bookstores and is filled with suggestions to save your sanity every day of the year.

    A must for any woman seeking to find her balance!

    Sanity SaversTM

    What should you do if you witness someone being mistreated? Your first impression may be that it is none of your business and you may not want to get involved. Maybe you don't quite know what to do, or maybe, you are not sure if there is anything you can do about the situation.

    For example, we can all relate to a parent feeling enormously frustrated with a child's particular behavior. We can all recall how it feels to "nearly lose it" because your nerves are frayed, your temper is shot, and you are beyond stressed out. (THIS IS THE MOST IMPORTANT REASON TO PRACTICE SANITY SAVING TECHNIQUES ON A REGULAR BASIS SO THAT YOU CAN HAVE PEACE OF MIND THAT YOU CAN HANDLE, IN A WAY YOU WOULD BE PROUD OF YOURSELF, WHATEVER COMES ALONG WITH YOUR CHILDREN.) And when you witness a parent "losing it" with his or her child, what, if anything, is your role? Do you have a responsibility and if so, what is your responsibility?

    Each of us needs to think about the consequences of standing by or walking away. Consider what is your societal responsibility to another parent and child. If you remember what it is like to need to take a break to compose yourself and you cannot see a way out, put yourself in the shoes of the person you are watching. It is amazing how helpful a "bystander" can be to help a parent get out of their downward cycle which is often fueled by fatigue, embarrassment, anger, fear, stress, or rage.

    Getting involved does not have to involve a "big show". Small interventions can make a big difference in a questionable situation. By distracting someone, saying non-judgmental, calming, or reassuring words, checking in with them to give them support so they don't "go over the edge" can prevent a situation from deteriorating to a point where someone gets hurt.


    TODAY Show (NBC)
    Oct. 7th: 8AM hour: Dr. Atkins will be on the Plaza, talking about the importance of early literacy. She is appearing as spokesperson for JUMPSTART for YOUNG CHILDREN'S READ FOR THE RECORD.
    Please check website, www.drdaleatkins.com, for latest updates, including changes of time.

    The M Word
    October 2nd: 5PM: The Coming Home: The New Challenge of the Boomers.

    WGTH.com, Darby and Friends
    August 19th: 5PM: The Value, Training, and Work of "Therapy Dogs," with Margarita Alban.

    WKTU-FM Radio Interview on KTU Cares
    May 16th: 9-9:30AM: Jumpstart's Playdate with a Purpose and the Issue of Early Childhood Literacy.
    KTU airs on Sunday mornings and focuses specifically on issues impacting the NY community. Available on http://www.ktu.com/pages/events/community.html

    Read Dr. Atkins' And Edythe Mencher's article in Reform Judaism Magazine,
    Fall 2010 Issue: Living With Secrets.
    Online at www.reformjudaismmag.com.

    Read Dr. Atkins' chapter, "Therapeutic Issues with Recipients of Cochlear Implants," in the new text, Psychotherapy With Deaf Clients From Diverse Groups, Second Edition.
    Edited by Irene Leigh, and published by Gallaudet University Press.

    Read Dr. Atkins' chapter, "Family Involvement and Counseling in Serving Children Who Possess Impaired Hearing," in the new text, Introduction to Aural Rehabilitation.
    Edited by Raymond H. Hull, and published by Plural Publishing.

    See Making the Case for Family Dinners, at iVillage.com: http://www.ivillage.com/making-case- family-dinner/3-a-62563

    See Dr. Atkins on http://www.workherway.com/02-stayinthegame/bullying-adults/#comments.

    Also see Googling Patients: Should Psychiatrists Research Cases Online? at http://www.politicsdaily.com/2010/04/18/googling-patients-should-psychiatrists-research-cases-online/


    Sanity SaversTM
    A Good Daily Habit

    Eat Breakfast Every Morning.

    Research shows people who have a morning meal tend to take in more vitamins and minerals, and less fat and cholesterol. The result is often a leaner body, lower cholesterol count, and less chance of overeating.

    Eating breakfast seems to make a difference in people's overall weight. It holds off hunger and helps prevent trips to vending machines filled with high-calorie items.

    To get the full benefits of breakfast strive for a meal with carbohydrates, protein, and a small amount of fat. No single food gives you all of the nutrients you need, so eating a variety of foods is essential to good health.

    Sanity SaversTM TIPS

    Rituals to Reopen Your Life

    Rituals are important, helpful, and powerful. Performing a ritual is a small way of celebrating or honoring a bigger event in your life, and helps us gain insight when we are dealing with change.

    Whether you perform an inner healing ritual, request a blessing, or engage in a special tradition for a special occasion, rituals can be encouraging, reassuring, and comforting. Holding on to our routines and rituals helps maintain our sanity and balance.

    Before you begin performing a ritual, your heart must be open to the experience. Ask yourself, what is your intention? Here are some additional tips:

    Old or New - A ritual is most effective when it has meaning for you. If you're performing an old ritual that is no longer fulfilling, consider designing a new ritual to enliven your connection and deepen meaning.

    "Everyday" Rituals - Morning coffee and reading the paper, walking the dog along a familiar path, calling a friend at the same time each week can be simple ways to ritualize a familiar, balancing pattern. Everyday routines can become rituals if you pay close attention to them and focus on the change or calm you hope to experience.

    Beginnings and Endings - Rituals can help to bring closure. Tearing a letter from someone who has hurt you and since died can be a freeing way to relegate them to your past. Writing your fears in the sand or on a piece of paper and lighting them on fire as you watch them burn can be amazingly liberating.

    Slow Down - You cannot perform a ritual at accelerated speed. Think about where and how are you going to do this? Be sure you are not going to be disturbed as you begin the process. Allow yourself the time to do what you need.

    Through ritual and ceremony, you can re-create yourself, your family, and your community to develop a peaceful connection.

    A Thought

    "How wonderful it is that no one need wait a single moment to start to improve the world."

    Anne Frank

    DALE V. ATKINS Ph.D. is a licensed psychologist, lecturer and commentator in the media who appears on the Today show.

    She has more than twenty- five years of experience and focuses on living a balanced life, parenting, aging well, managing stress, life & work transitions, family connections and healthy relationships.

    Dr. Atkins is the author and/or co-editor of several books including:

  • Sisters
  • From the Heart:
    Men and Women Write Their Private Thoughts about their Private Lives
  • Families and their Hearing-Impaired Children
  • I'm OK, You're My Parents
    How to Overcome Guilt, Let Go of Anger and Create a Relationship that Works
  • Wedding Sanity Savers
    How to Handle the Stickiest Dilemmas, Scrapes and Questions that Arise on the Road to Your Perfect Day.
  • And her newest book . . .

  • Sanity Savers: Tips for Women to Live a Balanced Life
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