Sanity SaversTM and More...
June 2011


In the Keeping Score I discuss the value of taking the high road when at a social crossroads.

In Keeping Your Life Interesting At Any Age I offer suggestions for getting the most out of your life by focusing on what you invest in it by paying attention to how you use your time and how you interact with others.

WE CAN ALL ADDRESS THE LITERACY CRISIS IN THIS COUNTRY. Jumpstart is a national early education nonprofit organization that pairs well-trained, caring adults with underserved preschoolers who live in poverty in year long mentoring relationships. Visit www.jstart.org to learn more about Jumpstart, initiatives - such as Scribbles to Novels, May 4th, 2011; Playdate With A Purpose; and Read for the Record. Please contribute by clicking on www.jstart.org/donate.

There is something that every single one of us can do to help those less fortunate. Over one million children live below the poverty level in the U.S. This shameful situation must change. Each of us has a responsibility to repair our world.

Please see Marlo Thomas' new website, www.marlothomas.com, where I discuss psychology and relationship issues. Marlo Thomas and I talk about families and the holidays. Tune in for some sanity saving ideas for YOUR family gatherings.

Once again thank you for continuing to read and talk about Sanity Savers: Tips for Women to Live a Balanced Life.

Check my website, www.drdaleatkins.com for updates on my appearances and use the Quick Links sidebar to access ongoing articles. I am available to speak to your group or organization. Please contact me directly at dale@drdaleatkins.com or contact the Speakers' Bureau at HarperCollins.

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Wishing you health, peace and balance.


In this issue
  • Sanity Savers: Tips for Women to Live a Balanced Life
  • Sanity SaversTM
    Keeping Score
  • Happenings
  • Sanity SaversTM
    A Good Daily Habit
  • Sanity SaversTM TIPS

    Keeping Your Life Interesting at Any Age
  • A Thought

  • Sanity Savers: Tips for Women to Live a Balanced Life
    SS Book Cover

    SANITY SAVERS: Tips for Women to Live A Balanced Life is filled with suggestions to save your sanity every day of the year.

    A must for any woman seeking to find her balance!

    Sanity SaversTM
    Keeping Score
    asian woman thinking

    Whether or not you treat someone kindly does not need to be something you negotiate. If you value the person (on any level), or understand that they were an important part of your life at one time (even if you are no longer as involved with them as you once were) consider behaving with them in a manner that honors who they were or the relationship you once had.

    Only you can determine the kind of person you are, and the choices you make regarding how you relate to other people reflects who you are. Those choices are yours to make. You can NEVER go wrong if your choose the high road. You will enrich your soul and hence, your life.

    The reason you choose the high road (or the "right" choice) is not because you seek acknowledgement or appreciation (because neither may come to you). Rather, you choose to behave this way because somewhere deep inside (your inner voice, or some gut feeling), lets you know it is correct. Perhaps, you will recognize that it is the way you would like to be treated (whether or not this person treats you that way). Even though it is not the reason to do it, many times, when you "do the right thing" you will likely receive positive treatment. When your attitude and actions demonstrate that you value people (which is what you do when you do the right thing) you will likely feel better about yourself and the world.

    When you choose not to "do the right thing" there is a high probability that you will feel badly about yourself and your choice. You may feel that you disappointed yourself and did not live up to a standard that you know you can reach. When this happens, you can feel disappointed and your sense of self can be diminished. You may feel that you have less control of your life and your ability to have an effect on the world.

    When you are at a social crossroads, think about the positive effect of making the "right" choice and visualize what the outcome can be for you. This is a helpful motivator.


    TODAY Show (NBC)
    Please check website, www.drdaleatkins.com, for latest updates, including changes of time.

    Visit Marlo Thomas' site to access my relationship column and Mondays with Marlo video stream. http://marlothomas.aol.com/search/?q=dale+atkins

    JCC Greenwich
    June 2nd: 7-8:30PM: An evening with Paul Bloom. Topic: How Pleasure Works. Introductory remarks by Dr. Dale Atkins.
    Greenwich Historical Society/Bush-Holley Historic Site, 39 Strickland Road, Cos Cob, CT 06807. Parking under I-95 overpass or in Marina Lot.

    Darby and Friends
    Archived from April 1st: Talking About Difficult Things

    Read Dr. Atkins' And Edythe Mencher's article in Reform Judaism Magazine,
    Winter 2010 Issue, Cover Story: Behind Bullying, and When Jack Pushed Jill Down the Hill.
    Online at www.reformjudaismmag.com.

    Read Dr. Atkins' chapter, "Therapeutic Issues with Recipients of Cochlear Implants," in the new text, Psychotherapy With Deaf Clients From Diverse Groups, Second Edition.
    Edited by Irene Leigh, and published by Gallaudet University Press.

    Read Dr. Atkins' chapter, "Family Involvement and Counseling in Serving Children Who Possess Impaired Hearing," in the new text, Introduction to Aural Rehabilitation.
    Edited by Raymond H. Hull, and published by Plural Publishing.

    I invite you to visit my website to access archives of articles and interviews on line.

    Sanity SaversTM
    A Good Daily Habit
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    Dealing with Differences

    When we are overwhelmed by current events and all that we have to do, it's easy to become stressed and impatient with the people we live and deal with on a daily basis. Sometimes we snap more easily with family members and coworkers and are not as accepting of differences of opinion and outlook.

    Allow yourself to see the other person's perspective. Step into their shoes. You do not need to agree with them. Stay present and hang in there, even if the subject matter is difficult for you and there are no clear answers. Be creative in problem solving. Listen. Do not interrupt. Practice patience. You are laying the groundwork for mutual respect and consideration when the time comes for you to say your "peace."

    Sanity SaversTM TIPS

    Keeping Your Life Interesting at Any Age
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    What makes a person exciting and interesting at any age is what they know and how they share that information. People with exceptional IQs may be interesting, but a high I Q isn't enough to make someone an interesting person. Being well-rounded, comfortable and versatile with ideas and skills, active and interested in others, a good listener (not trying to "top this") loves what they are doing and enjoys and appreciates the moment, are among the positive qualities that interesting people share at any age. They are also enthusiastic about continuing their learning from other people, books, and the world in general, and they don't shy away from challenges.

    Consider these tips:

    Read A Lot.

    Learn New Things.

    Be A Positive Influence.

    Cultivate Your Sense of Humor.

    Be Interested.

    Stay Present.

    Being passionate about something, exploring new things, and taking risks contribute to putting light behind the eyes and a spring in the step, even if one's walk is at a slower pace. Be present. Be mindful. Be here during the time you are here, for this moment will never reappear.

    A Thought

    "There can be no vulnerability without risk; there can be no community without vulnerability; there can be no peace, and ultimately no life, without community."

    M. Scott Peck

    DALE V. ATKINS Ph.D. is a licensed psychologist, lecturer and commentator in the media who appears on the Today show.

    She has more than twenty- five years of experience and focuses on living a balanced life, parenting, aging well, managing stress, life & work transitions, family connections and healthy relationships.

    Dr. Atkins is the author and/or co-editor of several books including:

  • Sisters
  • From the Heart:
    Men and Women Write Their Private Thoughts about their Private Lives
  • Families and their Hearing-Impaired Children
  • I'm OK, You're My Parents
    How to Overcome Guilt, Let Go of Anger and Create a Relationship that Works
  • Wedding Sanity Savers
    How to Handle the Stickiest Dilemmas, Scrapes and Questions that Arise on the Road to Your Perfect Day.
  • And her newest book . . .

  • Sanity Savers: Tips for Women to Live a Balanced Life
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