Sanity SaversTM and More...
July 2011


In the Renewing Friendships I discuss the value of examining and possibly re-igniting old friendships that have fallen by the wayside.

In Living with Uncertainty and Anxiety in the World I offer suggestions for keeping yourself calm and centered without turning your back on what is going on.

WE CAN ALL ADDRESS THE LITERACY CRISIS IN THIS COUNTRY. Jumpstart is a national early education nonprofit organization that pairs well-trained, caring adults with underserved preschoolers who live in poverty in year long mentoring relationships. Visit www.jstart.org to learn more about Jumpstart, initiatives - such as Scribbles to Novels, May 4th, 2011; Playdate With A Purpose; and Read for the Record. Please contribute by clicking on www.jstart.org/donate.

There is something that every single one of us can do to help those less fortunate. Over one million children live below the poverty level in the U.S. This shameful situation must change. Each of us has a responsibility to repair our world.

Please see Marlo Thomas' new website, www.marlothomas.com, where I discuss psychology and relationship issues. Marlo Thomas and I talk about families and the holidays. Tune in for some sanity saving ideas for YOUR family gatherings.

Once again thank you for continuing to read and talk about Sanity Savers: Tips for Women to Live a Balanced Life.

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Wishing you health, peace and balance.


In this issue
  • Sanity Savers: Tips for Women to Live a Balanced Life
  • Sanity SaversTM
    Renewing Friendships
  • Happenings
  • Sanity SaversTM
    A Good Daily Habit
  • Sanity SaversTM TIPS

    Living with Uncertainty and Anxiety in the World
  • A Thought

  • Sanity Savers: Tips for Women to Live a Balanced Life
    SS Book Cover

    SANITY SAVERS: Tips for Women to Live A Balanced Life is filled with suggestions to save your sanity every day of the year.

    A must for any woman seeking to find her balance!

    Sanity SaversTM
    Renewing Friendships

    Even though you know the mental, emotional, and physical benefits of having friends, you may have difficulty keeping up with your friendships. Busy lives, family, work obligations, and trying to fit in that all-important private time often prevent you from nurturing valuable friendships. Sometimes it even causes you to be reluctant to reach out to old friends with whom you have lost touch or whose counsel or company you may have enjoyed in the past. For many reasons, cultivating friendships gets lost from your radar screen.

    You can pick up where you left off with some friends; play quick catch-up and all is well. When you are with them you wonder where the time has gone. You miss being in their company and you know you are safe in their presence and that whatever you tell them will be safe, too. They respect and honor you and your privacy.

    But how do you actually reach out to someone from whom you have fallen away? Just pick up the phone? Send an e-mail? In some situations, that works fine. In others, it doesn't. Find what works for you. Be conscious of why you are contacting this person at this time. Perhaps you need something. You child wants to apply to your friend's alma mater; your husband is ill - you need to have access to a hospital where she can be influential; you need a loan and she has money. Whatever the reason, be up front about it. If there is a reason for your falling away and you are not sure what it is, or you have an idea of what it is, be up front about that too.

    When there is a warm place in your heart for an old friend, the years do not have to affect it. You may be somewhere that reminds you of your college roommate, so why not reach out and give her a call? When you are in her city for a conference and think it would be good to say hello after all these years, do not hesitate. Just be clear about what you want and why you are reaching out and see what happens.

    Not all friendships are created equal. Friendships of long ago may stay as they were in our memory or be revisited and rejuvenated.


    TODAY Show (NBC)
    Please check website, www.drdaleatkins.com, for latest updates, including changes of time.

    AccessCircles Aspen Forum
    July 28-31st: 3rd Annual forum focusing on "Connectivity - Enhancing our Cognitive, Spiritual and Physical Well Being." On June 29th, Dr. Atkins will join a panel of guest speakers to discuss: "Time, Treasure, Talent: How Women are Changing the Face of Philanthropy."
    Viceroy Hotel, Snowmass, Colorado.

    Visit Marlo Thomas' site to access my relationship column and Mondays with Marlo video stream. http://marlothomas.aol.com/search/?q=dale+atkins

    Darby and Friends
    Archived from April 1st: Talking About Difficult Things

    Read Dr. Atkins' article about charitable children, at www.jccgreenwich.org/index.php?option=com_myblog&Itemid=91.

    Read Dr. Atkins' thoughts on baby name issues at: http://www.babycenter.com/0_i-regret-the-name-i-gave-my-child_10346611.bc,>
    and: http//www.babycenter.com/0_someone-stole-my-baby-name_10346610.bc,
    and: http://www.babycenter.com/0_people-hate-my-babys-name_10346609.bc.

    Read Dr. Atkins' And Edythe Mencher's article in Reform Judaism Magazine,
    Winter 2010 Issue, Cover Story: Behind Bullying, and When Jack Pushed Jill Down the Hill.
    Online at www.reformjudaismmag.com.

    Read Dr. Atkins' chapter, "Therapeutic Issues with Recipients of Cochlear Implants," in the new text, Psychotherapy With Deaf Clients From Diverse Groups, Second Edition.
    Edited by Irene Leigh, and published by Gallaudet University Press.

    Read Dr. Atkins' chapter, "Family Involvement and Counseling in Serving Children Who Possess Impaired Hearing," in the new text, Introduction to Aural Rehabilitation.
    Edited by Raymond H. Hull, and published by Plural Publishing.

    I invite you to visit my website to access archives of articles and interviews on line.

    Sanity SaversTM
    A Good Daily Habit

    Having a "Twalk"

    Take the opportunity to benefit from talking and walking with someone. Focus on them and the synergistic reaction that occurs when you are focused, listening, and truly in synch. Walk in nature and be aware of what the natural world inspires regarding a fresh way to view ideas that come up as conversation.

    Try a TWALK with someone special today.

    Sanity SaversTM TIPS

    Living with Uncertainty and Anxiety in the World
    India boat

    How much more can you take? One more newscast of bombing or terror raids or the flagging economy and you find yourself with sweaty palms and a fast heartbeat. Of course, you should see a doctor, who just might determine that your symptoms are from excessive worrying and being on edge all the time.

    When your tolerance level is low and current events get you down, save your sanity and give yourself a boost by taking a break from the news. Learn to deal with stress in healthy ways.

    Try the following tips:

    Put Calm in your Day. - Every day, breathe deeply and find your calm. Ground yourself. Trust that you are secure and safe.

    Control Only You. - Since you can't control the events in the world, focus on what is possible and think about how you can take control of certain aspects of your life. Stay connected to people and things of interest you to you - this is important for developing resistance in the face of new demands. Accept and adapt to change. Live your beliefs. Take time to meditate so you can see and experience the world differently.

    Sweet Dreams. - Disturbing news is just that - disturbing. Stay clear of the news before bedtime.

    Balance your Energy. - Consider whether the pace of your life is benefiting you in the long run. If you are busy, busy, busy, your anxiety and worry may be connected to a perceived inability to stop the rat race. Consider where you need to put or reduce your energy so that you can feel more relaxed.

    Challenge Your Belief System. - It is possible for you to think about situations differently so they do not raise your level of anxiety or worry.

    When dealing with the difficulties in the world, focus on that which helps you to feel hopeful and resilient. You will be better able to serve where you are needed while maintaining your well-being.

    A Thought

    "Look deep into nature, and then you will understand everything better."

    Albert Einstein

    DALE V. ATKINS Ph.D. is a licensed psychologist, lecturer and commentator in the media who appears on the Today show.

    She has more than twenty- five years of experience and focuses on living a balanced life, parenting, aging well, managing stress, life & work transitions, family connections and healthy relationships.

    Dr. Atkins is the author and/or co-editor of several books including:

  • Sisters
  • From the Heart:
    Men and Women Write Their Private Thoughts about their Private Lives
  • Families and their Hearing-Impaired Children
  • I'm OK, You're My Parents
    How to Overcome Guilt, Let Go of Anger and Create a Relationship that Works
  • Wedding Sanity Savers
    How to Handle the Stickiest Dilemmas, Scrapes and Questions that Arise on the Road to Your Perfect Day.
  • And her newest book . . .

  • Sanity Savers: Tips for Women to Live a Balanced Life
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