Dr. Dale Atkins, PhD Psychology P.C.
Sanity SaversTM and More...
May 2015


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In this month's article, Thinking about Mothers, I ask you to consider some questions that may bring new light to your relationship with your mom.

In Tips for Focusing on What Counts, I suggest that how we set our minds before we doze off can have a healthy or deleterious effect on our well-being.

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Wishing you health, peace and balance.


In this issue
  • Sanity SaversTM
    Thinking About Mothers
  • Sanity SaversTM
    A Good Daily Habit
  • Sanity SaversTM TIPS

    Tips for Focusing on What Counts
  • Happenings
  • Sanity Savers: Tips for Women to Live a Balanced Life
  • A Thought

  • Sanity SaversTM
    Thinking About Mothers

    As Mother's Day approaches, it may be helpful to spend a moment and think about your mother, whether or not she is alive; whether or not you are in touch.

    Here are a few questions that I originally included in I'm OK, You're My Parents, 10 years ago. I suggest you find a quiet place where you won't be interrupted, shut down your electronic devices, and then, as you clear your head, take a few deep breaths:

    How would you describe your mother? Physically, emotionally, socially?

    What are the characteristics you admire about her?

    Which aspects of your mother's personality or behavior do you want to emulate?

    Which aspects of your mother's personality or behavior do you wish you could change?

    Why do these attributes or behaviors bother you?

    What are situations where you have felt embarrassed by your mother?

    What are situations where you have felt proud of her?

    In what ways do you admire your mother?

    In what ways is your relationship with your mother fulfilling (or satisfactory)?

    What would you like to say or write to your mother?

    What would you like your mother to know (appreciate, accept, understand) about you and / or your life (choices)?

    Select specific situations in which you have witnessed your mother's behavior which you find disturbing or troublesome. Why do you believe she behaves the way she does? In your opinion, what factors contribute to her behavior?

    How are you like your mother?

    Sanity SaversTM
    A Good Daily Habit

    Spend time with a Pet.

    Improve your mental and physical health by spending time with a pet.

    FINALLY! The research to support what most animal lovers have known for a long time is in. Time with pets help to balance mood, reduce stress, help relieve physical pain, and keep hearts healthy.

    Sanity SaversTM TIPS

    Tips for Focusing on What Counts

    Counting Sheep.
    Counting Slights.
    Counting Blessings.

    What counts?

    What works best to help ensure the healthiest life we can have? A restorative sleep? A kinder heart? A focused brain?

    Reviewing all of the people who "wronged" us, who hurt us, who "dissed" us will not lead to a positive or healthy outcome. It is more likely to contribute to bitterness and loneliness because cortisol (stress hormone) is released and re-released.

    So instead of counting slights:

    Count Blessings. Focusing on the good in our lives gives us an opportunity to open up to other positive experiences because we "set our minds" in a gratitude mode as the endorphins flood our body.


    TODAY Show (NBC), and HLN.
    Dr. Atkins is a frequent contributor.
    Please check website, www.drdaleatkins.com, for updated appearances.

    Jumpstart for Young Children
    May 7th, 7PM - 9PM: NYC "shopping party" to benefit Jumpstart.
    Theory, 1157 Madison Ave. (at 85th St.)

    HBS Women's Association of Greater New York
    May 12, 6:30-8:30PM: Panelist. Topic: Wealth -- Blessing and Curse: How Much is Really Enough?
    Harvard Club of NY
    27 West 44th St.

    Alzheimer's Foundation of America
    May 15th, 11:45AM - 12:30PM: Speaker. Topic: Caring for the Caregiver - How to Avoid Caregiver Burnout.
    New York Hilton Midtown.

    I invite you to visit my website to access archives of articles and interviews on line.

    Sanity Savers: Tips for Women to Live a Balanced Life

    SANITY SAVERS: Tips for Women to Live A Balanced Life is filled with suggestions to save your sanity every day of the year.

    A must for any woman seeking to find her balance!


    WE CAN ALL ADDRESS THE LITERACY CRISIS IN THIS COUNTRY. Jumpstart is a national early education organization that recruits and trains college students and community corps members to serve preschool children in low-income neighborhoods in year-long mentoring relationships. Jumpstart also partners with families, preschool centers, institutions of higher education, community groups and a variety of other groups and individuals to make certain that every stakeholder in a child's life is working to provide them with a high quality early education.

    Jumpstart's Scribbles to Novels is an annual fundraising event that celebrates the power of the written word. This year, we will held our 10th Anniversary gala on April 16 at Pier 60 Chelsea Piers, NYC. Highlighting a theme of joy, we were excited to feature Nicholas Kristof and Sheryl WuDunn as our keynote speakers, Brooke Shields as our special guest, former NFL running back and Giants Superbowl XXV MVP, Ottis "O.J." Anderson as our live auctioneer and several award-winning authors including Lucy Ferriss and Sarah Mlynowski.

    Click here to find out more and to support Jumpstart: http://www.jstart.org/campaigns/scribblesnewyork1

    A Thought

    "Our greatest freedom is the freedom to choose our attitude."

    Victor E. Frankl

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    DALE V. ATKINS Ph.D. is a licensed psychologist, lecturer and commentator in the media who appears on NBC's Today show.

    She has more than thirty years of experience and focuses on living a balanced life, creating and maintaining healthy relationships, parenting, aging well, caregiving, and managing stress, life and work transitions.

    Dr. Atkins is the author and/or co-editor of several books including:

  • Sisters:
  • A Practical, Helpful Exploration of the Intimate and Complex Bond between Female Siblings
  • From the Heart:
    Men and Women Write Their Private Thoughts about their Private Lives
  • Families and their Hearing-Impaired Children
  • I'm OK, You're My Parents
    How to Overcome Guilt, Let Go of Anger and Create a Relationship that Works
  • Wedding Sanity Savers
    How to Handle the Stickiest Dilemmas, Scrapes and Questions that Arise on the Road to Your Perfect Day.
  • Sanity Savers: Tips for Women to Live a Balanced Life
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